Guilt is one of the most destructive emotional states we can find ourselves in.
Not only does it torment us emotionally, it has a powerful effect on our ability to function in all areas of our lives.
While there may be a tendency to believe it can be useful in some way; the truth is: it has no positive or productive effects at all.
While you are feeling guilty, your brain and body are not functioning optimally since guilt is a stress emotion.
Related: What’s so Bad About Guilt?
We’re taught to feel guilty (some of us more than others!) as we grow up.
And feeling guilty is a way in which we’re taught responsibility.
It’s a way that those who raised us try to make sure we know when we’re wrong.
Then, as adults, we continue to keep ourselves in line using guilt.
We take over from where “they” left off, and continue to make ourselves feel guilty out of habit.
In theory, guilt seems like it could be a useful tool.
Guilt has absolutely no value
Guilt causes pain, damage and disruption in all areas of life from health to relationships (even those that have nothing to do with the guilt) to career and finances.
So, let’s look at the fastest and most effective way to let go of the heavy burden of guilt.
Whether you are feeling guilty because of something you have actually done (even deliberately) or you are suffering from misplaced guilt you cannot get rid of, the Faster EFT process can help you to become free from your burden.
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How to Get Rid of Guilt using FasterEFT
Notice how you know you feel guilty.
What are you guilty about?
Feel the feeling of guilt (this is the aiming), and notice how strong it is.
Using two fingers, and focusing on the feeling of your fingertips on your skin, gently tap the following points while saying the phrases:
– Between your eyebrows – “I release and let it go.”
– Beside your eye – “It’s okay to let this go now.”
– Under your eye – “It’s safe to let this go now.”
– Just below your collarbone – “I don’t need it anymore, and I’m safe as I’m letting it go.”
Grab your wrist, take a deep breath, blow it out, and say “Peace” then go to a peaceful memory.
Enjoy the feeling of your peaceful memory for a moment.
Go back to the guilt and notice if it’s changed.
If it has, notice how it’s changed and what is left.
Then repeat Steps One to Four until the feeling has completely changed.
If it hasn’t changed, notice how this guilt is represented inside you.
Is it a specific memory?
If so, what do you see, feel or hear in this memory?
Notice it, and then go through Steps Two to Four again until the memory changes.
While you are going through the process, you may find that certain memories and other thoughts come to you – tap on them as well.
Even if they seem to have nothing to do with your current guilt, the reason they are coming to you is because they are connected in some way in your subconscious records.
Once you’ve tapped on and cleared away the feelings of guilt, use the tips below to help you along your journey to living a guilt-free life.
Here are 5 tips below for dealing with Guilt using FasterEFT:
- Accept the kind of guilt you have and its purpose, then let it go!
One of the benefits many people see in guilt is that it prevents them from doing whatever it is they feel guilty about again.
But does it?
Have you ever decided to give up a bad habit, and then slipped up and given in?
Have you noticed that if you feel guilty about it, you are far weaker when you try to resist it next time?
Studies have shown that when people feel guilty about failing at something, they are more likely to fail in the future.
In fact, these studies have shown that when people beat themselves up over failure, they are more likely to fail bigger next time.
When they are more forgiving of themselves, they are stronger in future situations.
- Make changes NOW.
Some people don’t want to let go of guilt because they feel they deserve to feel guilty.
And that’s one way of looking at it.
The question is: does it help to correct or improve the situation?
You could eat 5 ice chocolate bars in a row because you had a fight with your spouse and chocolate is supposed to help make you feel better.
The fact is, though, eating chocolate in small amounts IS good for you – and no matter how upset you may be, you will gain weight if you keep on eating chocolate bars in this amount every time you have a fight with someone.
There’s a big difference in sticking to something because there’s a part of you that believes it’s “the right thing” and making your choices based on the results you want to achieve.
- Yes, you made a mistake, but it’s time to move on.
Choosing to keep beating yourself up because you believe you deserve it will keep you in a state of suffering; choosing to let go and forgive yourself will help you to achieve freedom and the life you desire.
Since your subconscious has been programmed to believe in guilt, it will feel very real to you.
This is where you need to take a leap of faith to let it go.
Think back to other times in your life when something seemed so true or real; and, after taking a leap of faith you discovered the belief you had was not reality at all.
- Learn from your mistakes.
Many of us have been taught that when something bad has happened that is our fault, we should feel guilty.
And that feeling guilty is some kind of penance that we deserve and that somehow helps to atone for the crime.
A punishment that means we, the perpetrator, will not “get away with it”.
However, if someone did something that caused you harm, would you rather they felt guilty forever; or would you rather they show you love, kindness and compassion?
Guilt is a dark, negative emotion; and when it is replaced with love and compassion, that is where the real healing begins.
Regardless of what you were led to believe growing up, there is never a good reason for feeling guilty.
It is like dragging a ball and chain around with you – it holds you back from making any kind of progress.
- No one’s perfect.
Realizing this and accepting it can be extremely freeing.
Trying to continuously hold yourself to impossible standards is a sure fire way to fail.
It’s important to realize that at our core, everyone just wants to be loved.
Genuine unconditional love is the Holy Grail every person is seeking (whether they realize that consciously or not).
Choosing to let go of your guilt and replace it with unconditional love is the real antidote to anything for which you may be feeling guilty.
However, you can’t feel unconditional love and guilt at the same time.
You need to put down the guilt to pick up the love.
Using the FasterEFT tapping process described above is the fastest, most effective way to clear guilt because it changes the subconscious record that guilt is based on.
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